By Published On: May 10th, 2023Categories: Article

The Problem with Language Exchange Apps: Challenges and Solutions

Language exchange apps have gained immense popularity in recent years as an accessible and engaging way for language learners to connect with native speakers from around the globe. While these apps offer numerous benefits, they are not without their fair share of challenges. In this article, we will delve into the problems that language exchange apps often face, along with potential solutions to ensure a more effective and enjoyable learning experience.

The main problem with language exchange apps: inconsistency

Inconsistent user engagement on language exchange apps can be a major drawback for some language learners. While the apps offer a platform to connect with native speakers, the quality and frequency of interactions can vary greatly. Some people may get lucky and find some language exchange partners for the long term but this is rare.  Many users, encounter language partners who are unresponsive, disinterested, only looking for casual conversations or end up being ghosted, which at the end of the day be quite frustrating and leads to you wasting a lot of valuable language learning time.

Additionally, some users may be more focused on their own language learning goals, neglecting to support their partners’ needs, thus creating an imbalance in the exchange (which is ideally 50/50). Time zone differences and busy schedules can further exacerbate the problem, leading to sporadic communication that fails to provide the regular practice necessary for language improvement. In many cases, users can feel demotivated by the lack of consistent engagement, which can negatively impact their overall learning experience.

For the most part, this is inevitable when it comes to language exchange apps and the reason why alternative platforms such as iTalki, whilst not free tend to be a much better use of time for language practice.


So, how can we overcome these challenges? One approach is to broaden your search and, if you’re lucky enough to come across like-minded individuals with whom you get along, exchange contact information for more popular messaging platforms like WhatsApp/Instagram, FB messenger, and WeChat. Another effective solution is to use platforms like iTalki, where you can pay for community tutors or professional teachers. In my view, this is the preferable option, as you can often find community tutors who offer affordable rates for one-on-one speaking practice. This personalised approach leads to higher-quality and more beneficial experiences compared to typical language exchange apps such as Hellotalk.

Dating App or Language Exchange App?

One persistent issue that tarnishes the language exchange app experience for some users is the constant flirting and unsolicited advances from some individuals. While many people use the platform for its intended purpose, there is a subset of individuals who unfortunately attempt to use it for flirting or pursuing romantic relationships. Female users, in particular, experience a higher frequency of unwanted attention from users who treat the app as a dating platform. These advances can be intrusive and disruptive, leading to decreased motivation and, in many cases, causing users to abandon the app altogether. Sadly, the presence of such users with dating-oriented intentions can erode trust within the language learning community and dilute the overall quality of interactions on the platform.  As a male user, my personal experience has been relatively unaffected by this problem; however, I’ve heard from several female friends who had to delete these kinds of apps altogether due to creepy guys.

Ultimately, the misuse of language exchange apps for dating purposes undermines the primary objectives of these platforms, which are to facilitate authentic language learning and cultural exchange. Unsolicited advances, and explicit nude pics, all contribute to a hostile and inhospitable learning atmosphere for many users (especially females).


Sadly I don’t see too many solutions that we can do as a user, it’s really up to the apps to implement better measures that will limit the number of users using these apps as dating apps. As a female, you’re best bet is to not use a profile picture of yourself, but of an animal or something else. The second would be sadly to make the block feature your best friend and be prepared to block these guys.


Regrettably, discrimination is a prevalent issue that many individuals encounter. It appears that originating from specific countries can result in disadvantages, ultimately making it challenging for those affected to connect with others willing to engage in conversation. This situation is often exacerbated by instances of sexual harassment.  Racial discrimination on language exchange apps can be a significant concern and a barrier for some users seeking to improve their language skills. In these cases, individuals may experience biased behaviour or be treated unfairly based on their race or ethnicity. This can manifest in various ways, such as:

  • Profile rejections: Some users may reject or ignore requests from individuals of specific racial and ethnic backgrounds or from certain countries, limiting opportunities for genuine language exchange and meaningful connections.
  • Stereotyping: Users may encounter others who make assumptions about their language skills, interests, or personalities based on racial or ethnic stereotypes. For example, some people might exclude certain users who may be fluent but are from a different racial or ethnic background which ends up limiting learning opportunities for those affected users.

Overall, language exchange apps such as HelloTalk and Tandem offer a convenient and exciting way for language learners to connect with native speakers across the globe (if you can make it work, and find other users whom you get along with). However, these platforms also come with their fair share of challenges, such as inconsistency in interactions, misuse for dating purposes, and discrimination. To overcome these issues and make the most of your language learning journey, it may be worth exploring alternative options such as platforms like iTalki, where you can have conversations with professional teachers and community tutors. By being proactive, and vigilant you can navigate around these challenges and create a more effective and enjoyable language-learning experience.

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